Being true to who you are.
Yes being true to who you are in the worlds mind means gratifying feelings, ideas, and beliefs.
That is being true to who you are.
But being true to who you are means that you are happy.
If you are emotionally unstable, that is the opposite of happiness. It means you are NOT being true to who you are.
1) If you have to force your body to feel “normal/happy/relaxed/at peace” and stable through outside narcotics drugs alcohol you are not fulfilling your emotional requirements of what it means to be you.
2) If you have to feel happy through indulgence in any negative behavior verbal or physical to appease the obsessive hunger that your lack of fulfilled feelings are starving for, means you are not being true to who you are.
Yes you are appeasing your feelings and being true to THEM. At the expense of your own happiness health or someone elses. Physically, emotionally or mentally.
true identity is when everyone around you benefits emotionally and physically AND mentally by your presence. They are able to be who they are around you free of criticism (within positive reason) You are able to believe what you believe and they are able to do the same. You are able to receive there beliefs with curiosity and not defensively. True identity keeps the things around them intact and happy. If the bodies and feelings of those around you deteriorate by being true to who you are; you are NOT being true. True identity is NOT at the expense of others.
just to make myself clear for good.
Stealing, self harm, killing, enslaving, fighting, judgement controlling what people say and do, hate, looking at people’s flaws, jealousy, ignoring people, impatience, not listening to people’s request of things they need, wanting other people’s stuff.
these are real feelings but they are not true identity feelings.
so we’ve established that
true identity does not come from material things (material things are important but not IT), negative behavior, at the expense of others does not come from liquids or herbs, does not come from drugs. Some of these things give you a temporary glimpse of true identity and the feelings that accompany true identity. Those are what people are looking for.
True identity is accompanied by content, clarity, speed, compassion, understanding, loyalty, giving, but also logic, reason, and It is self aware. True identity understand why it feels the way it feels and what causes certain feelings and where to find them healthfully. And above all it does not feel lonely or left out. It feels like it belongs, it is real. True identity is purpose, Reason and value to exist and protect existence.
Where to find true identity
True identity comes through fulfilling emotional needs that you get from femininity and masculinity. Femininity and masculinity are a set of behavior , lifestyle and philosophies. And when these philosophies reside in the correct gender and the genders are in correct quantity. The ultimate feelings that we are deeply engrained TO FEEL exist there. WE ALL KNOW we should feel them. But we don’t. But we can in THIS EXISTENCE and present day modern life. The quantity is: 1 masculine male, 3 feminine females. Intimacy, compassion, understanding, arts, exploration, fun! and loyalty. Loyalty to your choice of family is the only way without addictions, drugs, medication, violence, war, hate, jealousy. If this is the outcome you want in your life then this is the ONLY way without all the negatives I mentioned above.
Emotional fulfillment physical freedom, freedom of speech is possible in this family lifestyle when all are correctly educated about the philosophies, behaviors and lifestyle of masculinity and femininity. Education and freedom of choice is crucial. Understanding is crucial.
True identity understands negativity and where it comes from. Negativity also= darkness. And true identity sees the darkness and is able to shed light on it; Without being consumed by it.