Stop going around in circles! This is the Straight answer!
This is the the relationship dynamic that establishes order.
Validation men want: thousands of girls want to have sex with him
Validation women want : get to have sex with the man that thousands of girls want to have sex with.
ALPHA: “a woman is lucky to be able to sleep with me”
BETA: “I would be lucky if i was able to sleep with this woman”