I have realized that in order to be aroused to mr. darling he needs to be alpha enough to capture my attention. He needs to be beta enough to fulfill my security needs and loyalty needs. Too much of something is never good. So, if he is mostly alpha and drops in a beta here and here. I will cherish those beta moments so much more than if he was only beta. When a man is mostly beta a woman gets disgusted in him, finds him a bit creepy or needy. She also feels like he is draining her energy. Alpha arouses her, excites her, thrills her, MIX THEM. She will desire him and appreciate when he actually gives her attention. The woman needs to do the chasing even in marriage. He just needs to give her enough attention to keep her running and adoring him.